People are giving surprises to each other. Most of the time our mind naturally connects surprises with gifts and coupons. At times, our loved ones and relations visit also surprises us too. We are very much accepting of the normal surprises but when people change over some time it’s very difficult for us to accept it. Especially a change in behavior with children and adults.
A person who was talkative during their childhood has withdrawn from speaking with anyone; a very social and interactive person prefers to stay at home alone at some point in time; some children focus only on academics and avoid attending family functions or going out with friends.
At the workplace, few find it difficult to do teamwork or have a cordial relationship with colleagues. Few are able to manage the routine with partial social life but finds it difficult to adjust with in-laws or to accommodate a life partner.
An individual who lacks social interactions and people connect prefers to be alone and gives the excuse for each and everything. They don’t volunteer for any activities, lack interest, negative approach, and reluctant behavior.
These could be the symptoms of social anxiety. The unaddressed fear, emotions, and feelings may eventually lead to depression.
The US studies say that people with social anxiety symptoms have exhibited the characteristics of depression in the long run.
These incidents in a way relate to us. Most of the time, we don’t see this as a problem in the initial phase as we generalize our mind saying that academics are important, not required to talk with anyone and everyone, adjustment issues with married life are common and good to be at home.
These points are completely valid to a certain extent but need to check whether a person exhibits such behaviors as a way of living.
If so, then it calls for an intervention. As such behaviors will become an obstacle in their personal life or performance issues at the workplace.
These are common things that everybody has faced at some point in life but many of them can manage it because of certain skills they have, knowing their limitations and encashing strengths, delegating the work, and engaging with people for certain support.
Some though know their limitations and drawbacks, unable to help themselves or seek help. They have learned to live with it or try hard to get help.
Whatever may be the case, we always have a choice of preference. Seeking help with people with whom you are comfortable is the first step you have to take.
Eventually, you can seek professional assistance to develop new skills and behavior modifications. People do surprise us with behavior changes not to hurt others but their inability to cope up or handle life situations. Need to understand their unsaid words and hidden emotions to help them come out of it gradually.
If we come across our closed ones or known contacts show some indifferent behaviours, be a volunteer to help them physically and emotionally.
Being with them when in need makes a lot of difference in their life. Be a supportive person and a change maker in someone’s life.
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